Real Talk: 27 and Single

Galentines day shoot, styled shoot

With Valentine’s Day approaching I have been thinking a lot about the topics of love and dating. As most of you know, I am a 27 year old dog- mom who’s single AF, with a heck of a lot of “Dating in Dallas” stories under my belt. I have been told so many times “oh, you should blog about that”…. opening up my personal dating life and struggles to strangers and potentially exposing people… ehhh, that sounds risky.

However, about 30 minutes ago I was sitting on my couch with a glass of cabernet in one hand, and my phone in the other on Bumble. If you don’t know what Bumble is (my grandma reads my blog, hi Mimi! This explanation is for you), it is a dating app where you can look at men/women and swipe right for “yes” and left for “no” based on the others photos, age, occupation, and a short bio.  Then if both parties swipe “yes” on one another, a conversation can be initiated. Super shallow, but hey! If anything, its entertaining and it’s not like men are consistently approaching me while I am out and about. Anyways, as I was going through the series of men looking at their photos and bios in my head I was literally going through my checklist looking for a reason to say no: mirror selfie- no, too young- no, too old- no, middle income job- no, tattoos- no, too short- no, community college- no. I will stop there, because I promise you the list went on, and include some things that were deal breakers for me that are too embarrassing and judge-y to even admit. In the midst of swiping “no, no, no, no, no” I literally thought to myself “Lynlee, wtf are you doing?!”…. no, I am serious. I literally mouthed that to Ellie, who looked at me like “you’re pathetic, mom”.

Through my twenties I have had a few serious relationships, casual dating, and first dates. However at 27 I have more than ever been thinking about what I want in a partner, and preparing my heart for that person. It is all in God’s timing. But y’all… dating is tough. And I have realized, its okay to be picky. However, there is a difference between your “wishlist” and your values when it comes to dating. Of course we probably all have non-negotiables, like religious beliefs, having kids, etc. But is it necessary for  them to be over 6 ft tall, come from a certain family, and hunt, grill, have a dog, drive a truck/SUV, be athletic, and attend a well-respected University (not that these were on my list or anything…..)? NO, because you could be missing out on some pretty great guys. So while of course we all want a partner who checks all the boxes, first and foremost it is important that you find someone who has similar core values. And sometimes once you get to know someone that “check list” changes.

So I have decided that moving forward 27 is going to be my year of “yes”, and that I am also going to take more initiative when it comes to dating. I will be honest, guys are sissies when it comes to approaching women. I have such a strong, and direct personality anyways, why not take the initiative to introduce myself to someone I might be interested in (after a ring check, of course). {True story: My old roommate who is beautiful, successful, and funny but would NEVER approach a guy out of the blue one night took initiative (after a little liquid courage) and sent her guy a number from across the restaurant while we are at dinner one night… and now they are engaged!!!} It just goes to show being bold and putting yourself out there can be scary, but could also lead you to meeting someone great! So, with that being said– cheers to being single and 27!

Also, I want to talk about a Galentine’s Day brunch I attended last week! It was so much fun to get together with some amazing women (all entrepreneurs I might add) to celebrate one another, single, in relationships, married, and everything in between! Also let’s not talk about how many donuts and macaroons I consumed.

Galentines day shoot, styled shoot

Galentines day shoot, styled shoot

Galentines day shoot, styled shoot

Galentines day shoot, styled shoot

Galentines day shoot, styled shoot

Galentines day shoot, styled shoot

Galentines day shoot, styled shoot

Galentines day shoot, styled shoot

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Galentines day shoot, styled shoot

Galentines day shoot, styled shoot

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Galentines day shoot, styled shoot

Photography : Madison Kaitlin Photography | Concept/Planning : Becca Ashmon  |Planning/ Execution : Events by Jade | Venue: Sixty Five Hundred | Paper Products : Paper Planet  | Florals: RLove Floral | Linen Rental:AM Linen Rental  | Macarons:Savor Patisserie | Chocolate: Kate Weiser Chocolate  | Cotton Candy: The Cotton Smith 

5 Comments

  1. macey flowers
    February 15, 2017 / 8:02 pm

    Lyn,
    I always love your genuine “realness” but this post has been my favorite so far. Thanks for being so vulnerable with your readers and sharing all this with us. Good things come to those who wait and don’t settle. You’re holding out for your dream guy and he is out there somewhere holding out for you too. You are one of the most beautiful, fun, and genuine girls I have ever met and I cannot wait to see who is even worthy of a girl like you <3 <3

    • Lynlee
      February 16, 2017 / 8:49 pm

      Awwww Macey. Tears! Thank you so much love for the kind words, so blessed to have a friend like you!!!

  2. February 16, 2017 / 4:24 am

    I met my boyfriend on Tinder and we have been together for two years (going on forever!) I never thought I would “resort” to online dating, but my friend talked me into it as a joke at first and now she claims responsibility for getting us together! haha. Dating in the 21st century is so hard, but it does help to have an open mind-set. Sometimes the perfect person for you comes in a different package than the one you were expecting. Keep your heels, head, & standards high, girl! Wait for the guy who will fight for you and never settle for a relationship you aren’t completely happy in!

    XO, Emily
    Epicurean Emily

    • Lynlee
      February 16, 2017 / 8:51 pm

      Oh my goodness Emily! Thank you so much for sharing this! One of my good friends met her boyfriend of 2 years on Bumble as well. Like you said, sometimes things don’t always happen in that “perfect” way tied in a bow like we wall want– but I think its important to keep an open mind and an open heart and God will lead you to that person you are holding out for and who is holding out for you too! Thank you so much for the sweet words!!! xoxo

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