Changing things up today a bit here on the blog…today’s post isn’t about those “must have boots for fall” or a major sale… but a little more of a “life thoughts” post. You guys might not know this from following my blog and on Instagram, but I’ve been in a major creative rut here lately– feeling uninspired, bored, etc. More than that, I just feel as if I’ve been in a life rut. Ugh. Ya feel me?
But why? I honestly feel like every year as I approach my birthday I get in a little bit of panic. Like I am once again turning the page on another year, yet I feel like I am so far away from so many things I want to/feel like I should be experiencing and accomplished by this time. Career goals, personal goals, relationships (still a single dog-mom), and just all around life experiences. While I know I am often playing the ‘comparison game’ when it comes to all this (we ALL do it– thats a topic and a post for another time. PS- comparison is literally like a death sentence to your ego. Sigh.), it’s still hard not to feel “meh” at times and that we are behind or not living up to our fullest potential in life. I guess that is one of my biggest fears in life, unmet potential. Which is why it drives me crazy when I am feeling in a “life rut”… I feel like we all set goals and expectations for ourselves and almost get in a panic when things are not on the road map we planned out in our heads.
In a way I have been kind of feeling like I am losing my ability to thrive– yet I am not taking charge and making changes in my habits or going outside my comfort zone. They say (idk who “they” is but I feel like whoever they are the know their shit) that magic and life truly happens when you step out of your comfort zone. So…. with that being said, if you can relate to this in any way- here are a few changes to make or things you can do (myself included) when you feel “stuck”.
- Be kind to yourself- Hell, life is hard… you are doing the best you can. Don’t beat yourself too much or be too hard on yourself. Which trust me I know, is easier said than done. Feeling hopeless, having self-doubt, and lacking confidence will do nothing but deter you from making any positive changes. While we need to be honest with ourselves about where we are at, we don’t want to beat ourselves up too much. Take some time, and think about the changes you want to make… but allow yourself to understand that we are never going to have it all together.
- Continue to Look Forward – Sometimes you just have to push yourself out of the norm and your comfort zone and remember that life changes, priorities change, people change, and with that you have to move forward. I continuously remind myself that God has the most perfect plan for me, better than I could even fathom. Concentrating on becoming your best self and improving only shapes and helps prepare you for these plans. It’s easy to wallow in the past or overanalyze situations…. instead, focus on what you can control.
- Be Your Own Cheerleader- Sometimes you have to stray away from the “big picture” and focus more on the small victories. Kill it at your job one week? Workout more days during the week than you drank wine? Accomplished a small personal victory? Those small things are a big deal! We can be our biggest critic, but also our biggest motivator!
- Have a Mentor- Seriously, this has been HUGE for me in my twenties. Someone I can talk about life with who I truly admire and respect. I actually have a few people in my life who I consider mentors, which I am so fortunate for. Chances are, they have been through and experienced many of the same things you have and can provide some solid life advice. It’s nice to have a clear, unbiased perspective on things from someone who cares about you and who you trust.
How do you guys deal with being in a “rut” any advice? I will be honest, despite being a “fashion and lifestyle” blog, I find myself gravitating most towards personal posts so I am really hoping to incorporate some realness here on the blog. I would love any ideas you have or discussions to talk about moving forward. You all know I’m an open book!